What happened to the Northeast, where there were the most “only children” in the past 30 years? The status quo is embarrassing
After the opening of the second-child policy, many families have joined the ranks of having a second child, but in the 1980s, the state implemented a plan Childbirth policy. At that time, many families actively responded to the policy and became one-child families later.
In fact, after family planning was established as a basic national policy, it did affect many people, especially those born in the 1980s, most of whom are only children. After all, under the family planning policy, if the family has one more child, it will face a fine.
But if the place where family planning is carried out most thoroughly, it should be the Northeast. Once in the Northeast, there were basically standard families with one child.
Now that more than 30 years have passed, what is the status quo of Northeast China, where the family planning policy is best implemented?
According to the 2015 Census, the total number of children under 15 in Northeast China, especially Liaoning Province, is less than 10%. This also means that the birth rate in Northeast China is very high. The problem of population aging will be very serious when the young and middle-aged are relatively low. This is undoubtedly a sequelae caused by family planning.
Now, the country has fully liberalized the second-child policy, satisfying a couple’s desire to have two children, but why are many couples still reluctant to have a second child?
The reason why only-child families are unwilling to have a second child?
1. Economic conditions do not allow it
As we all know, the cost of raising a child is much higher than before. After a child is born, there are many places to spend money, such as the child’s milk powder, diapers, and daily necessities.
As the child grows up, parents have to train the child in related aspects according to the child’s hobbies after school, which also requires a lot of money. Although the nine-year compulsory education has already waived the child’s tuition, the funds needed for the child to go to high school, university, and even graduate school are still not a few.
Not only that, after the children grow up, regardless of men and women, marriage still costs money. Therefore, due to economic considerations, couples often choose to have only one child.
2. Physical conditions are not allowed
After the second child policy was opened, many couples have tried She gave birth to a second child, but Naihe has reached middle age, and women’s physical fitness is getting worse in all aspects, and the chance of pregnancy is greatly reduced. Especially after entering menopause, it is difficult to guarantee a successful pregnancy again.
In addition, the risks faced by older mothers during pregnancy and delivery are much higher than those of right-age mothers. For this reason, even if a couple has the idea of having a second child, it is difficult for them to act.
3. It is difficult to balance the relationship between Dabao and Erbao
For most young couples, if financial conditions permit, they want to have a second child. It’s easy, but after having a second child, how to balance the relationship between Dabao and the second child has become a headache for many people.
In the beginning, many couples chose to have a second child, nothing more than giving Dabao multiple companions to grow up with Dabao. But after the second child was born, the parents would involuntarily favor the second treasure, thus ignoring Dabao’s feelings and affecting his psychological growth. Therefore, before they know how to balance the relationship between the two children, the couple will not easily have a second child.
4. I am used to having only one child
As an only child born in the 1980s, when I was a child, my parents Thousands of pets are in love, don’t have to worry about love being robbed by others, and get a sufficient sense of security.
Therefore, when they grow up, they will also habitually choose to have only one child, thinking that this can put all the love of the two parents into one child, which will not be distracted, but also can ensure the child’s growth. The most important thing is that there will be no patriarchal situation, so that the child’s psychology will not be harmed.
Thirty years later, most families with only one child will face these kinds of situations.
1. Children’s lives are under pressure
Because the only-child family has only one child, the obligation of supporting the elderly falls on the child alone. If two only children get married, they need to support the four elderly people of both families, plus their own children, they will form a typical 421 family model. It is conceivable how stressful life is.
Nowadays, the cost of living is still so high, and mortgage and car loans are already overwhelming young people. Once the elderly become ill, whether children have time to take care of the elderly is a problem.
2. The elderly are easily lonely and lonely
When they were young, the couple took care of a child and worried about things Not much, life seems to feel very relaxed and comfortable. But after retirement, the elderly will inevitably feel lonely if the only child is not around.
If there are two or more children in the family, there may be children accompanying the elderly, so that the elderly can enjoy their twilight years. The loneliness of parents in old age is also the main reason why many elderly couples want to have a second child.
Of course, whether a couple chooses to have a second child, they need to consider the problems they face. Only in this way can life become happier. The child exchanged Christmas gifts, thousands of yuan of stationery were exchanged for a piece of torn paper, and my mother’s face was black after learning the price
Although the children are still young, they already know many things, even adults. Did not teach them, such as comparison. In kindergarten, if a child wears beautiful clothes, other children will also clamor for parents to dress themselves up. However, this kind of comparison is unhealthy and will only make us suffer in the end.
Christmas is a traditional holiday abroad, but it is also very popular in China. As for the controversy about whether or not to spend Christmas, we will not mention it for the time being. Today we will mainly talk about Xiaohan’s experience in the kindergarten.
Christmas is here, Xiaohan’s kindergarten organization After an activity, the children prepare a gift when they go home, and they will exchange each other after they arrive in the kindergarten. Xiao Han was very interested in this activity, and immediately after school she dragged her mother to the supermarket to buy gifts.
Went to the stationery area, Xiaohan found that a set of stationery was very exquisite, and asked her mother to buy it for herself. But when my mother saw the price, she was shocked, because this set of stationery is worth thousands of dollars, which is too expensive and luxurious. When the mother refused, the child rolled directly on the ground, saying that he would not leave if he didn’t buy it. With this gift, other children would definitely admire themselves very much. In the end, the mother compromised.
When I go home from school on the second day, The mother thought that the child would be very happy, but his expression was a little angry. Xiaohan told his mother that he was wronged, because his gift was so expensive, but he only got a paper man, but it was just a piece of torn paper. And the child said that this paper man is only 50 cents. After learning the price, my mother’s face went dark.
Then my mother turned on the mobile phone and was in the parent group The paper man was exposed in the paper, and some parents are really stingy. Facing such a thing, the teacher is also very helpless. He clearly wants to cultivate the friendship of the children. How can it become like this?
What are the benefits of having children exchange Christmas gifts?
①Learn to share
There are some children who are very selfish, but we cannot blame the children, because this is human nature. Selfish children do not want to share their own things with other people, but only want to have them alone.
Allowing children to exchange gifts at Christmas can cultivate the spirit of sharing. After they learn to share, they will not be so selfish. Because children will find that it is also a very happy thing to use their own items for others.
②Willing to pay
The gifts exchanged by children are difficult to be equal in value. If they don’t care about the value of the items, but only care whether their gifts bring happiness to the other party, the children will grow up. Because they are willing to give and don’t care if they suffer, this quality is very rare.
What is the disadvantage of exchanging gifts?
①Comparative psychology may arise
Gifts are both good and bad. Some children are unwilling to lose face, so they ask their mothers to buy the most expensive gifts for themselves, hoping to save others Than go down. When children have this kind of psychology, the price of gifts becomes more and more expensive, and it can only be a vicious circle in the end.
②Like to take advantage of small bargains
This way of exchanging gifts also makes some children have bad ideas, wanting to exchange some cheaper gifts for others expensive gift. I think I have earned it in this way, but I don’t know it has changed my position in the minds of others. In the process of getting along in the future, it will be difficult to get the respect of others. Therefore, when parents are educating their children, they must develop a good character and not take advantage of this kind of small advantage.