“There are 4 people in the front and 6 people in the back. How many people are there in total?” The child answered 11, but the teacher was wrong.

“The first 4 people and the next 6 people, how many people are there in total?” The child answered 11, but the teacher said it was wrong.

Nowadays, many parents complain that tutoring children with homework is too hard. On the one hand, children do have problems with homework procrastination, and on the other hand, the difficulty of primary school students’ homework is gradually increasing. Many subjects, let alone primary school students, have difficulty dealing with even old fathers and mothers. 

Of course, if the question is simply over the outline, parents can also find a way to solve the problem by learning with the child. However, the mathematics problems of elementary school students are not at all too difficult, but rather that your thinking can’t keep up with the rhythm of the questioner. 

No, Wenxuan’s father met Such a problem. 

“There are 4 people in front and 6 people in the back. How many people are there in the team?”

On this day, Dad Wenxuan counseled his children to do homework, and encountered an addition problem with the topic: “Little Pig Peiqi queuing up , There are 4 people in front and 6 people behind. How many people are there in the team?”

When Dad Wenxuan looked at the question, he felt that the child’s first grade math problem was too simple, so he made the child confident. Fill in the answer of 11. 

Unexpectedly, Wen Xuan went home after school Later, he was very unhappy. When I asked the reason, I found out that the question of “Little Pig Peiqi Queuing” was wrong. After the child answered 11 people, the teacher said that the answer was wrong. For this reason, Wen Xuan was deducted 5 points by the teacher. 

When my father heard that something was wrong, 4+6+1 obviously equals 11. Why is the child wrong? Therefore, Dad Wenxuan specifically asked the teacher on WeChat, and the teacher patiently answered: “The question is about how many people there are, and Peiqi Pig is not a person, so the answer is 10 people.”

Listening to this explanation, Dad Wenxuan just felt dumbfounded, because in his opinion this is no longer A math problem, but a brain teaser. 

Is this kind of brain teaser necessary? 

From the teacher’s point of view, such a question is not only to test the students’ ability to add and subtract, but also to test the flexibility of the students’ thinking and the degree of carefulness in reviewing the questions. 

Some parents agree with this very much, believing that this can prevent children from “deadly reading” and “deadly reading”, and at the same time increase the fun of children’s learning. 

However, some parents objected to The second grade children are just when they have a good foundation for learning, and they can only exercise the children’s cleverness, and it is not conducive to the children to lay the foundation for learning. Once the children can’t solve the problem, they are easy to beat. The child’s self-confidence. 

In fact, text-based questions have advantages and disadvantages.

Similar questions often appear in elementary school tutoring questions, such as moving a matchstick to make the equation true. We can’t say that this kind of topic is absolutely good or bad, we can only say that there are advantages and disadvantages for different children. 

1) It can improve the child’s logical ability

The advantage of this type of question is that it can improve the child’s logical thinking ability, allowing the child to think divergently, and it also has It is helpful for children to grasp the core of the problem. 

2) Cultivate the habit of answering questions carefully< /p>

Some questions seem to be playing “word games”, but at the same time they help develop children’s good habits of carefully reviewing and answering questions, which is very helpful for future learning. 

3) It’s easy for children to dig into the horns

However, if the child cannot answer for a while, and there is no correct answer, it is easy for the child to dig into the horns, causing repeated research and pondering of the problem. answer. 

4) Let the lower grade children think confused< /p>

For children in the lower grades, when their cognitive and comprehension abilities are not up to the corresponding level, their thinking is not divergent and flexible enough, so it will be difficult to understand the meaning of the question and cannot understand the question. , Even if you tell your children the answer, they still can’t understand it. Over time, it is easy to cause confusion in children’s thinking. Precepts and deeds are also potentially harmful. Children are independent individuals. Don’t become a “copy” of their parents.

Precepts and deeds come from “Zhuangzi·Heavenly Way”-the language is the most valuable and the meaning follows. Whatever you want, you can’t talk about it. In layman’s terms, when we teach people verbally, we have to do what we say, so that we can play an exemplary role and let the educated know that we are not just talking. However, is there no problem with precepts and deeds? 

Case:

My friend who is a teacher Said that there are problems, because the class he teaches is the first grade. When the children just go from kindergarten to elementary school, they are still very ignorant of many things, so they often imitate the adults at home or learn their behavior. 

This friend who is a teacher said that there is a child in his class who often speaks foul language. I know why children have such a bad habit of swearing. 

It turned out that this parent often used swear words to show what it means “what kind of parent teaches what kind of children”, and it also gave friends a new understanding of the matter of precepts and deeds. understanding. 

Therefore, if parents teach by precept and deeds in addition to deviation, give What are the negative effects of children’s misunderstandings and cognitive errors on the children’s growth? In fact, teaching by precept and deeds is also potentially harmful. Children are independent individuals. Don’t become a “copy” of their parents.

What impact does wrong preaching and teaching have on children? 

1: Problems that cannot be corrected in time

If the child has a bad habit of being taught by words and deeds, it is not a good thing for the child’s education, because it is considered that the child is affected by the parent’s influence. If the parents themselves do not realize the seriousness of this matter, the children will continue to continue this bad habit. 

Then, when the problem is deeply rooted, even if the parents realize the importance of the problem in the future, it will be difficult to correct it because it is imprinted in the child’s bones. 

Two: lack of restraint

The famous Swedish writer Allinglen once said: Children need discipline and guidance. This is true, but if they are under discipline and guidance all the time and everything, they are unlikely to learn self-control And self-directed. 

Some parents think that their children can imitate their own behavior after their own behavior is standardized. However, this is a deviation in the understanding of their children’s self-control. It is necessary to know that children are difficult to control their behavior and are easily affected by the outside world. Attracted by the temptation. 

Especially the current world information is very dazzling, children will be overly addicted and unable to control their behavior if they are not careful. Therefore, if parents only rely on words and deeds, it is difficult to restrain their children. 

So when we want to When giving children a better growth space and a brighter future, they should pay attention to the cultivation of these places. Then through gradual training, the child will have the opportunity to become a talent who can live up to the expectations of his parents. 

Which areas should parents pay attention to? 

1. Review their own behavior

Parents should know how to grow up with their children, because in the process of their children’s growth, they will not only imitate the behaviors of their parents, but also learn the knowledge their parents have instilled. If there is a problem with the behavior, or the parents have a deviation in their thinking, then the child will also be affected. 

Therefore, parents should pay attention to reviewing their own behavior. If there are mistakes, they should be corrected as soon as possible. Only in this way can they set a positive example for their children. 

2. Give children affirmation at the right time< /p>

Even if it’s precepts and deeds, parents should choose the right time. For example, when children are learning about themselves, if they learn something wrong, parents should promptly warn their children so that they don’t imitate the wrong things; if you say If the child learns what the parent recognizes and is beneficial to the child, then the parent should give the child affirmation and recognition. 

Because of this, children can accept the good side of their parents. When facing wrong behaviors, children can gradually learn to distinguish, know what is worth learning by themselves and what behaviors cannot be imitated. 

3. Give children free development space< /p>

The child is not a copy of his parents, but an individual who can grow up independently. Therefore, parents should not be too superstitious about the role of precepts and deeds. They should give their children a space for free and self-sufficient development, so that children are not limited to the “ability” of their parents. 

For example, parents should respect their children’s choices and space, and don’t interfere too much. Unless the children are going astray, they should be guided as the main restraint is supplemented, so that the children have an open and clear mind. Soar freely in front of you. 

The original intention of precepts and deeds is correct, but the child Education cannot be framed by rigid dogma, because this will not only limit the growth of the child, but also limit the thinking of the parents. 

Therefore, parents should know how to be flexible, or to improve their parenting methods while educating their children, so as to help their children grow up, and at the same time allow parents to accompany their children to grow up together.

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