The higher the baby’s IQ, the more bizarre behaviors. Parents of children with these behaviors should cultivate them carefully
Everyone can observe carefully and find that many people who have achieved fame in a certain field always have bizarre behaviors when they are young. These behaviors will make parents mistakenly think that their children are abnormal, but in fact, this is some of their extraordinary performance. Maybe everyone can’t understand children’s behavior at all, but what we should do is to provide them with a more suitable growth environment instead of denying them. Sometimes your tolerance and understanding will really make a child’s future.
The children of the neighbors were treated as outliers when they were young, and many parents did not want their children to be friends with them. Just because this child behaves differently from ordinary people, he will be in a daze wherever he goes. Sometimes when playing blocks with his companions, he would fall into his own world, and when he was in a daze, he would not be able to hear him.
I remember that time the children were playing downstairs in the community after school. They surrounded a small pile of sand and started building castles. Everyone designed the castle in front of them with gusto. Only the neighbor’s children sat down. Then began to be in a daze. The parents next to him couldn’t help but start whispering “Do you see if this child has a low IQ? I hear others say that the brain is not well developed, and will be dumbfounded.” The words around him become more and more distracting. Many parents only discuss this as a joke after a meal.
At this time, the neighbor came over and said seriously to those people, “My child is too smart, so it is different from most children. If you don’t understand, don’t talk nonsense here, take care of your own baby!” The broken-mouthed parents didn’t continue speaking after knowing the reason, and left with their children one after another. Since then, many parents have forbidden their children to be friends with them, and there have even been many rumors about the unacceptable neighbor’s baby. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with his children, and I don’t prevent my children from playing with them.
Now that the children are all grown up in a blink of an eye, the neighbor’s children are not “impressive” as everyone said. He has great talent in mathematics at school, won many Olympiad awards, and was recommended to a well-known university when he was in high school.
The behavior of the child in the case was indeed misunderstood when he was young. Fortunately, his parents did not give up on his training. Children with high IQ do have a lot of weird behaviors in their childhood. Parents should learn to cultivate them, but don’t make mistakes and stifle their talents.
The child exists here Several behaviors are not weird, but are high IQs.
1. Often stay in a daze for no reason
Parents observe carefully and find that some children often like to stare at one place in their lives. At this time, everyone will disturb the child in a daze, thinking that this is an abnormal behavior. In fact, when in a daze, children are often thinking about problems. Your behavior will directly interrupt their thoughts, making it impossible for the child to continue thinking. In addition, when the child is in a daze, the mind does not stop working, but it will speed up the movement and be more conducive to thinking. So next time you encounter a similar situation, parents don’t need to disturb their children, they should give them some space.
2. Always like to ask strange questions
Since children are not familiar with the things around them when they are young, they gain experience through exploration, practice, and thinking, so as to learn more about those strange things. In this process, children will ask all kinds of strange questions, some parents can’t answer them. Some people think that these questions are too long-winded, which makes everyone feel bored.
When answering children’s questions, they will be irritable and will give them an answer casually. However, such an approach will directly affect the child’s cognitive development and dampen their learning curiosity. Parents are suggested to think carefully about their children’s problems, or explore with them to find answers.
3. Too much concentration in doing things
Many children like to immerse themselves in their own world when they are playing. At this time, they may not hear their parents calling themselves. At this time, don’t think that the children are not normal enough, mainly because they are over-focused. In this case, it is best not to disturb the child, this will help improve his work efficiency, and his future learning will be better than his peers.
If you want your children to be smarter, then cultivation from an early age is definitely indispensable. I attach great importance to education in this area, so when my son was young, I bought him Silford eva foam blocks. This kind of building blocks are made of environmentally friendly materials and passed the quality inspection, so you can use them with confidence. One of my favorites is that the building blocks can be washed, so that children can be cleaned at any time if they are dirty, preventing the breeding of too many bacteria and ensuring his health.
Ordinary blocks are too heavy to play, if they are likely to hit the child. And this building block can let everyone eliminate such concerns, and the light texture can ensure that the child is not harmed. Playing more blocks is good for children’s brain development, and parents should also prepare a set for their children.
How do you usually develop your child’s intelligence? You can leave a message below to share your parenting experience with everyone. The 3 things that parents often do will plant the seeds of “inferiority” in their children’s hearts, and those who get hit will quickly change them.
Recently, I took the children back to my hometown. My neighbors were cleaning at the door. Just a few simple conversations
The neighbor’s children are already in junior high school. She is writing calligraphy at home. The calligraphy is vigorous and powerful. If you don’t see it with your own eyes, you can’t really imagine this character. It was from a teenager who said, “Your handwriting is really good,” and I gave her a thumbs up.
When the child saw me coming, he didn’t say anything, and a smile appeared on his face.
The neighbor said, “That is, the writing is pretty good, and the others are useless.”
Hearing this, the child’s smiling face suddenly turned from sunny to overcast.
“My child is doing well, don’t always hit her,” I responded with a smile, the neighbor Say, “What are you doing while standing? Go to the house and get some corn for your aunt.”
Said the child took a few corn cobs out, “Just take the corn instead of the bag, this Die brains, you say you can do something else. “The neighbors are silly to the children again.
The child suddenly lowered his head and stood timidly on the spot. The child was always looking at the ground until I left.
Every parent hopes to have the heart of Jackie Chan, but they don’t know how to make their children better. High hopes were given to the child, but the child did not reach it, it was just a reprimand, as if the child could become better after the reprimand. In fact, on the contrary, if the child is suppressed for a long time, not only will the child not get better, but he will also feel inferior.
1. Low self-esteem is the result of children receiving bad education for a long time. When children have the following situations, it means that children have a tendency to low self-esteem.
1. Excessive shyness
When children reach a certain age, they will be shy. Many parents attribute this phenomenon to the growth of children. If children have a sense of discrimination, they will naturally show some behavior, but everything is too bad. If the child is too shy, seeing strangers, shy enough not to speak or do things, this is abnormal.
2. Avoid competition
When facing competition, children do not actively participate, but find various reasons not to participate. In fact, it is the inferiority complex in the bones that is at work, but if you don’t do well, you always feel that you will definitely fail. Without the slightest confidence in yourself, you naturally don’t want to face competition.
3. Refuse to make friends
People are social animals and need to socialize. At the beginning of the period, a child liked to play with children, but later, as he was not sure about himself and the relatives around him disliked him, he always worried that he would be rejected and would not dare to make friends over time. I even worry about being laughed at by others, and always confine myself in a strange circle of thinking that I can’t do.
2. It was originally a naive age, how could there be inferiority complex?
Most of this is directly related to the education the child receives, especially these behaviors of the parents will directly lead to the child’s low self-esteem.
1. Too much dependence
Parents love their children selflessly, and they can even sacrifice themselves for their children. The same expectations for children are also high. For example, I often hear asking parents to tell their children, I’m counting on you, and you have to be up for it. This way of raising children is like a big bet. He puts all the bets on the child, imposing a curse on the child.
Parents raising children is a process of appreciation in itself, so why put so much pressure on the children? Children have their own lives, we can only accompany them for one journey, and children have their own distant places to go.
2. Complaining and venting. When parents are wronged outside, if the child is a little uncomfortable, he will say to the child, “I have worked so hard for you. If it is not for you, I get up so early and greedy the dark.” I vented all my grievances on the child. Parents intended to tell their children that it was not easy, but the children felt guilty. The parent’s sentence is all because of you, which makes the children feel that their existence is a mistake. They deny themselves from the bottom of their hearts, and even feel that their existence has no value and will not be liked by anyone.
3. Blind comparison “Look at your grades, and then look at XX’s.” This is what many parents often say to their children. Blind comparisons often don’t go. Depending on the actual situation, only the final result is required. How can you bear to compare the shortcomings of your own children with those of others? Perhaps you have seen his excellent grades, but you have not seen your child’s artistic talent. Every child is like a flower in the garden, but the flowering period of each flower is different. Why should we demand our children any more?
3. It is not terrible to have problems in the process of education, but the terrible thing is not knowing it.
When a child has an inferiority complex, what should parents do to let the child get out of the quagmire of inferiority?
1. Changing the image
I don’t know if you have noticed that during weightlifting competitions, athletes will shout loudly on the court. It is said that this shout can make athletes give 15 more % Weight, maybe this is what we often say about cheering! A person’s self-confidence also comes from his own image. When a person walks forward with his head held high, his heart will become more confident. Give the child a new hairstyle and a new set of clothes that he likes so that the child can go to school neatly and cleanly. He likes this kind of self, and he will naturally show a sense of confidence invisibly.
2. Language suggestion
Language is an invisible knife, which can give us strength and instantly discourage us. The language suggestion method can quickly stimulate the child’s inner potential, give the child a hug, and tell him that I believe you can. Positive language can make children have positive thoughts. So as to dispel negative thoughts, let the children face new challenges with confidence. 3. Saving for children successfully. When a person recalls his unfortunate past over and over again, he will feel depressed. And when I think of those moments of success, my heart will be full of vigor. Record the child’s success in life, let the child review it over and over again, and let the child feel their own strength. Successful savings can allow children to remember these happy moments of their own, so that they can face new challenges more bravely, affirm and believe in themselves from the bottom of their hearts.
Rojeming once said that human beings have only one purpose for education, and that is to make children a complete person. There is a long way to go on the road to educating children. We always want to give our children the best, but we do not know that we will harm our children in the name of love without knowing it. Making mistakes is not terrible, as long as we start from scratch, there will be hope for everything. In the face of inferiority children, we must correct them in time, otherwise it will have an irreversible impact on the child’s life.