During the confinement period, don’t mention these requirements for the husband. It is easy to hurt the mother’s heart, especially the last point
In traditional Chinese thinking, women should start confinement after giving birth, so that they can keep their bodies very strong. Good to return to the best condition.
Writer: Wang Xiaoming
Editor: Wang Zhifeng
Finalized: Su Zihou
Because women suffer both physically and mentally during pregnancy Because of the different pressures, coupled with the consumption of a lot of vitality during childbirth, after giving birth, it is necessary to make good adjustments during the confinement period, otherwise it is very likely that some disease roots will fall, which is often referred to as confinement sickness.
But in real life, not all pregnant women can be taken care of by their family members, and some husbands may even make unreasonable requests. Bao Ma must not agree to it, otherwise it is only you who suffer.
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Tingting’s mother-in-law fell ill during the first month of her delivery, and her natal family was far away. Therefore, during the few days after giving birth, the husband was taking care of him in the hospital.
She was about to be discharged from the hospital, and the husband’s maternity leave was over. No one came to take care of her during the confinement period. She asked for an aunt or confinement but was rejected, which means she Confinement alone.
In the end, she sat in her confinement alone, feeling that her body was not recovered at all, but because she had to take care of her baby, she wanted to sleep every day, and she fell into confinement.
Husband in the month It’s easy to hurt Bao’s mother if I make these demands.
1. Confinement by myself
Some husbands don’t even know that they feel distressed about taking care of their daughter-in-law. After the mother has given birth, Do not find anyone to take care of, maybe the elderly in the family are old, or the confinement center is too expensive, let Baoma sit in the confinement alone, not only responsible for her own daily life, diet, but also need meticulous care child.
For a parturient who has just given birth to a child, it is a kind of heavy physical work, which not only prevents the body from getting the slightest rest, but also falls into confinement due to excessive fatigue and the body cannot recover at all.
2. Doing housework
After giving birth, mothers consume a lot of vitality and need more time to recuperate and restore vitality and physical strength.
If you are asked by your husband to do housework during this period, you may be overworked and confinement sickness. Although it is not recommended to lie in bed every day during the confinement period, you cannot do some work. Housework, you can get out of bed and take a walk, or do some more soothing exercises such as postpartum repair yoga to promote the discharge of lochia and the recovery of the uterus.
3. Marital life
Some husbands ask their wives to live a married life for their own selfish desires soon after their wives have given birth, and mothers must learn to refuse.
Whether it is a normal delivery or a cesarean section, it is best not to have close contact between husband and wife during the first three months of giving birth.
Because women will have some wounds after giving birth, the uterus is also in the recovery stage, and there will be some inflammations on the body. If you live a married life too early, it is likely to cause crossover Infection will not be conducive to postpartum recovery.
Therefore, if the husband makes such a request, the mother must learn to reject it. A husband who is really good for himself is reluctant to hurt his wife.
4. Sleep in separate rooms
Many pregnant mothers start to sleep with their husbands after they become pregnant, worrying about being crushed on their stomachs. After giving birth, they worry about squeezing their babies, or worry about them. Bao Dad didn’t have a good rest and could not go to work with peace of mind, so he split the room to sleep, but this will easily lead to less and less communication between the couple in the end, which affects the relationship between the couple.
In addition, if a family of three can sleep in the same room, it will not only promote the relationship between each other, but also let Bao Dad experience the hardship of bringing a baby at night, and let him realize that bringing a baby is never easy It also makes Dad take the responsibility of taking care of the children.
The parturient is in the month What can be done in the child to promote the recovery of the body?
1. Ensure adequate sleep
While confinement, mothers must pay attention to rest. During this period, some family members may come to visit, but pay attention to ensure that Baoma has enough Sleep well, so as to facilitate the discharge of lochia and help the body recover.
2. Pay attention to maintaining a good attitude
After pregnancy, due to the influence of hormones in the body, emotions may be relatively large, especially after some mothers have given birth to their children, their hormone levels change again, coupled with the transformation of identity If you don’t adapt, you may feel weaker mentally, and often feel sad and cry due to some things.
This will cause the mother to cry during confinement, which is not only harmful to the recovery of the body, but may also affect the vision, which will easily affect the future life and work.
Therefore, family members should help the mother to sort out the depressed mood and communicate more with them. At the same time, Momma should learn to release her own bad emotions, so as to help the body recover faster.
3. Pay attention to a reasonable diet
While confinement is also an important period for postpartum body recovery, this requires more attention in the diet, not only pay attention to balanced nutrition intake, but also need to eat some milk Do not eat any supplementary foods, which can lead to postpartum obesity and make it difficult to recover the body. These kinds of behaviors of children at the table , It’s difficult to make a difference in the future, and it’s too late if you don’t change it
Many people have been educated since they were young: standing and eating.
Finalized: Su Zihou
Actually, there are many etiquettes in China for table culture, such as: eating without speaking, sleeping; For example, dishes do not serve three, chopsticks do not make five, seats do not make six, etc. It is just that with the progress of the times, very few are left.
Under normal circumstances, eating time is when a person is most relaxed, and once the brain relaxes, things in the subconscious will be revealed, so there is also the saying “see the table for education”.
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From a psychological point of view, the true appearance of a person is almost always revealed by inadvertently eating and drinking. of.
Case: Children eat without rules, and outsiders assert that they have no education.
Some time ago, Xiao Xia attended a class reunion. There was a female classmate with her child. A boy aged 7-8 years old was very cute. .
But as soon as the food was on the table, I was clamoring for food. When everyone saw the child looked hungry, they suggested that the child eat first, but unexpectedly, the child vomited out after taking a bite and said the food. Unpalatable.
After finally waiting for the food to be ready, the child started turning the table again and again, clamoring for the dish for a while, and clamoring for the dish for a while, his mother said that he would pick it up later, he was not happy , Crying and making troubles, I couldn’t hold it in my bowl, so I put it in my mother’s bowl.
The whole table felt a little embarrassed when it was like this, and the whole meal was unhappy. It was not until the party was over and after the child’s mother had left that they realized that everyone was discussing the matter, thinking that the child’s eating was too unruly. , Even asserting that such an uncultivated child will not have a great future when he grows up.
In fact, this kind of thing is not uncommon in life. Many parents always feel that their children are young, and they will understand when they grow up. They don’t realize that their children’s behavior also reflects the parents’ educational level. .
Children with these behaviors at the table can hardly be successful when they grow up
It is easy to develop a habit of being alone, especially the etiquette at the table, because it is exposed every day, if you even this If you don’t understand the most basic politeness, how can you expect your child to be good in the future?
➽ Pick and choose when eating, stir it with chopsticks
Many children have the problem of picky eaters, no matter where they eat, whether there are elders or not, they never Will take care of others, pick and choose when eating, only choose what you like, a pair of chopsticks churn on the plate.
Such children tend to only care about themselves and never consider the feelings of the people around them. During the interpersonal relationship, the selfish attributes are undoubtedly exposed, and it is difficult to make some intimate friends. And such a solitary person often breaks through in the society. Will take many detours, it is difficult to make a big difference.
➽ Very domineering when eating, and don’t let others eat what I like
Some children are very unruly when they eat and like to be picky eaters. No matter who you are at the same table, just see If you have a dish you like to eat, you will arrogantly bring it in front of you, and eat enough for yourself, even if you can’t finish it, you won’t let others catch it.
Such a child doesn’t know what to respect. He thinks about himself in everything. He never cares about others. Even eating a meal is so selfish. What’s more, he gets along for a long time. After he enters the society, he will suffer from lack. The teamwork spirit is criticized and even kicked out by other partners. Naturally, there will be no big prospects.
➽ Eating is ugly and gobbles it up
Most children like to eat their appetite, and they are easily agitated when they see delicious dishes, so some children will eat faster unconsciously , Gobbled it up, for fear that others would rob him, as if he had never eaten before, the food looks very ugly.
Although the pace of the times is getting faster and the pace of life seems to be urging people to move forward, people do not have the time to chew slowly, but they should also maintain basic table manners. Sometimes, the more trivial things are. , The easier it will affect the child’s life.
Since normal people eat three meals a day, many people think that eating is a very common and common little thing, and there is no need to care about it, but in fact, from a small table etiquette, We can also see the upbringing of children and even their future life path.
Table education is a compulsory course for children
What we call “table education” today refers to table manners and dining habits.
★ At the table, children learn to share and be grateful
When many families eat, they are accustomed to give the children delicious food first, and most of the food that children can’t eat is by the parents. To bear. Although this kind of sharing and courtesy seems to be a very small thing, but this kind of accumulated details can help children learn to share and be grateful.
Life is the best textbook, and the dining table is the best classroom.
Sharing on the table is not only material sharing, but more importantly, spiritual sharing, cultural sharing, and learning achievement sharing. Many families call dinner time a “dinner forum” and become a platform for communication and sharing between parents and children.
Every student has read the poem “It’s noon on the day of hoeing, sweat drips down the soil. Who knows that a Chinese meal is hard for every grain”, but not every student can understand it. Implication. As a parent, you should apply your knowledge to practice so that your children can appreciate the hard-won food and cherish every grain of rice.
★ At the table, children learn etiquette and education
Some people say: Dining habits often reflect a person’s character and cultivation.
At home, dining with parents focuses on nurturing, while in society, dining with friends focuses on showing. The etiquette at the table is often closely related to the family education received by the individual. Under normal circumstances, when a person’s dining habits are criticized, the first reflection is mostly the education of the parents and the overall quality of the family.
“Eating phase” can well reflect a person’s social etiquette, because every small habit in the meal process demonstrates the individual’s own upbringing. Therefore, as a parent, you should nurture your children from an early age. Table manners ensure that children can adapt well to social situations in the future.
William Hansen, the world’s top etiquette master, said: A person who is good at observing can know the background of your parents’ life and your education with only one meal.
It can be seen that table manners also hide the future of the child.