How old is the baby to go to kindergarten? The difference between 3 and 4 years old is not only in adaptability
As the saying goes: “There is nothing trivial on the road to parenting.” When we upgrade to parents, it also means I am about to embark on a “worry journey”.
Take the baby to school as an example. Generally, after the child reaches the appropriate age, the parents will start to investigate the kindergarten around them, and strive to help the children create A happy childhood life. At this time, the question of how old the baby is to go to kindergarten has become a “worry” for parents.
Is it better for a child to go to kindergarten at the age of 3, or is it more appropriate to go to a 4 year old? In this issue, Momma has a hard time.
Xiaoya’s baby is already three years old. In a twinkling of an eye, the child is at the age of kindergarten. In order to allow the child to adapt to school life as soon as possible, but also to If she can return to the workplace sooner, Xiaoya is ready to send her children to kindergarten.
This was originally a very common thing, but I didn’t expect it to cause a dispute in the family. After hearing Xiaoya’s point of view, the mother-in-law was very opposed to letting the child go to kindergarten this morning, saying that she was afraid of the child being bullied.
Faced with her mother-in-law’s slashing accusation, Xiaoya felt a strong sense of powerlessness in her heart. She could only patiently tell her mother-in-law that it was for the children Well, it can better adapt him to campus life and improve his abilities.
But the mother-in-law still insisted on her bottom line, she was not worried about letting the three-year-old baby go to kindergarten. She wanted to be a year later. After the husband’s mediation, the two sides gave way to each other.
In fact, the difference between going to school at the age of 3 and going to kindergarten at the age of 4 is not only in the ability to adapt.
Many parents are This age group will encounter similar problems. After all, most parents believe that children who enter the kindergarten at the age of 4 will become the older children in the class, and they will adapt quickly to the kindergarten life.
But in fact, the difference between going to school at the age of 3 and going to kindergarten at the age of 4 is not only in adaptability.
▼There is a difference in the ability to understand the content taught by the teacher
Kindergarten is the starting point for children’s learning and life. Whether it is a public or private kindergarten, the teacher will teach some basic knowledge in class. It is very important to consider the child’s comprehension ability.
If the child’s comprehension ability is not up to standard, he will be very confused about the content of the teacher’s teaching. However, 4-year-old children’s ability to understand sentences, vocabulary, and level are much higher than 3-year-old children, so they can better understand the teacher’s statement in class.
▼There are high and low levels of self-care ability in life
There is also self-care ability in life, we Looking around, you will find that three-year-old children are relatively weak in self-care ability, such as washing, dressing, eating, and going to the toilet are big problems and require adult help.
This is different for four-year-old babies. They can basically solve such problems, so that they can be more smooth in the kindergarten and relieve the teacher a lot of burden.
▼There is a difference in the speed of integration into the environment
The speed of integration into the environment determines the baby’s Whether the kindergarten adapts or not, the four-year-old babies seem to be a little stronger in this regard. They can interact well with the people around them, that is, they have a higher acceptance of unfamiliar environments.
But three-year-old babies are in the period of establishing a sense of security. They are very afraid of leaving their mothers and their families, and fear takes up more of their hearts. It’s older, so it’s not suitable for kindergarten.
So is it necessary for children to go to kindergarten at the age of 4? Not necessarily
In fact, after analysis, it seems that children are allowed to go to school at the age of 4, which seems to be better than when they go to school at the age of 3 in all aspects, but there are also kindergarten teachers who said: Whether a child enters the kindergarten cannot only depend on the age.
For example, although a child is young, but if he already has the ability to enter kindergarten, he can enroll early, there is no need to wait until 4 years old.
In addition, if there is really no one at home who can help look after the children, it’s okay to go to school at 3 years old, as long as the parents help the children find a suitable kindergarten and patient teachers That’s it.
And if parents hold the heart of a “chicken baby mother” and want their children to win at the starting line, they must also focus on whether the children can adapt.
So in general, when it comes to children’s going to kindergarten, it is necessary to strike a balance between the child’s age, ability, parents’ mentality, and the specific circumstances of the family.
Expand reading. Before the child goes to kindergarten, parents’ preparation is very important.
Before the child goes to kindergarten, the parents also A certain amount of work must be done to help children develop self-care skills, and to allow children to accept the kindergarten life in advance, and not to let them have negative emotions.
Finally, it is necessary to understand some of the normal reactions that children have after their first contact with kindergarten, such as crying, making noise, etc. The children’s mood is unstable and does not have sufficient control ability, so this is normal.
Conclusion: When a child is suitable for kindergarten, age is really not an absolute screening criterion. Parents still depend on the actual adaptability of the child, and then Help make judgments. Children are clever or not, and they can judge one or two in their infancy. Do these characteristics appear in your baby?
Although a person’s IQ is related to innate genetic factors The elements of acquired effort are all related, but many parents still pay attention to the child’s intellectual development too early, and even shortly after the baby is born, they will judge whether the child is smart or not based on the child’s performance.
Of course, this kind of judgment is not unfounded, because whether a child is smart or not has its first clues as early as infancy.
The baby is a “troublemaker”, he just likes to pull his mother’s hair when he’s fine.
Xiaojuan’s baby is more than 2 months old. Unlike other babies, Xiaojuan’s baby eats and sleeps. Very lively when awake, often smiles at Xiaojuan.
But when Xiaojuan is playing with her baby, the baby often “hands up”, either scratching her face or pulling her hair.
At first, Xiaojuan’s mother said that children like to pull adults’ hair, and that’s it when they are older. So Xiaojuan didn’t care. But after a while, the baby’s strength became stronger and stronger. Once she pulled Xiaojuan’s hair, she often did not let go, which made Xiaojuan especially helpless.
Xiaojuan thought to herself, she is so good to the baby, how could the child treat her badly instead.
Later, Xiaojuan asked an experienced colleague how to “control” the child. The colleague said: “It’s not a bad thing for a child to pull hair, maybe it’s a performance of knowing my mother. , It proves that your baby is very smart.” Xiaojuan was even more confused when she heard what a colleague said.
In fact, children are not smart, and they can judge one or two cases
like Xiaojuan’s baby Some mothers will also encounter them, but parents should not be too busy to be angry, because if the baby has these performances within 2 months, it proves that he (she) is a “smart baby” and has the potential to become a schoolmaster in the future.
Then parents might as well compare them to see if these characteristics appear in your baby?
[Feature 1]: Have an interactive social smile
When a baby is born, the smile is mostly unconscious.
But as the baby grows older, when the mother calls the baby’s name, or when the baby needs a timely response, the baby will have obvious interaction A sexual smile, which is called a “social smile”, is a clever performance of the baby.
[Feature two]: The baby’s hand hides their clever signal
the baby’s fine The development of movements is also directly related to whether the brain is smart.
Some scholars believe that the finer the child’s hand movements, the more stimulation of brain neurons, and the better the child’s brain development.
In other words, when the baby can grasp forcefully, it indirectly proves that the baby’s fine motor development is better, and of course he is a smart baby.
[Feature Three]: Know how to imitate the expressions on parents’ faces
Early human learning is all started by imitation. Some parents have found that babies over 2 months old have begun to learn to imitate their parents’ expressions, such as sticking out their tongues and squeezing their eyes, which means that their imitating and observation abilities are superior to those of their peers.
[Feature 4]: The eyes are smart, and when the parents or the baby bottle are found, they will focus their attention.
The so-called “Eyes are the window of the soul.” Some smart little babies have flexible eyes. Their small eyes and small heads can always move with their parents or the bottle.
This means that its cognitive and thinking abilities are constantly improving, and it is also a sign of cleverness. However, no matter how smart the baby is, he needs the help of his parents.
If you want to boost your baby’s intellectual development, parents should also make efforts during the child’s “golden period of brain development”
▼ Communication is a bridge to improve language ability
Parents should not think that children are small and cannot understand the language of adults, just as all output comes from input. Therefore, when the baby is young, parents can use more methods such as “talking” and “telling stories” to communicate with the baby.
Although they cannot fully understand what you are saying, they can judge the emotion of the language through your expression and tone, which is helpful for their intellectual development.
▼Appropriate large-scale exercise training can help the baby master skills as soon as possible
The baby is 3 months old, Parents can consciously start training the baby to raise and turn over. At 6 months, parents can also consciously train the baby to learn to sit and wait for major exercises.
In fact, the training of these big sports can help the baby to master the skills, and at the same time promote the development of the brain.
▼The “stage” for children to explore is helpful to improve cognitive ability
Parents are in front of you Appropriate encouragement should also be given to the exploration of “curious babies”. For example, when babies are in the sensitive period of throwing things, they often want to “detect” the quality of the objects and the landing conditions.
If parents think their children are too naughty, it is recommended to buy some suitable toys for their children. A Harvard study found that the more chaotic these three places at home, the more developed the baby’s brain. Parents should not be too diligent.
Children can be said to be the pillars of every parent’s heart, supporting their parents’ spiritual world, and parents’ Expectations are also high. After all, no parent hopes that their children will not be successful in the future. Therefore, parents have never stopped training their children. However, many parents say that they have worked hard to cultivate their children. Why is this happening?
In fact, the main reason is that many parents have not mastered The correct method does not make use of the surrounding environment. It is necessary to know that the impact of the environment on the child is no less than the education of the parents to him.
Harvard University’s research found that the more chaotic these three places at home, the more developed the children’s brains, and the parents are blind and diligent.
As recognized as one of the world’s top higher education and research institutions, Harvard University’s status and The influence can be said to be extraordinary. It not only cultivated a group of American presidents such as Roosevelt and Obama, but also produced more than 160 Nobel Prize winners, which shows the strength of Harvard University.
And Harvard University has done a study It is found that if children in the early childhood can be exposed to more “stimuli”, it will have a significant effect on the development of the brain and the improvement of intelligence, especially for those children whose brains are not fully developed.
The so-called “stimulation” refers to the body and tissue , The environmental conditions felt by the cells, such as the sounds a child hears, the light they see, and the objects they touch can all produce stimuli. It is just the strength of the stimulus. According to the survey, the hand Stimulation is the strongest, and it has the greatest impact on brain neurons, which means that the stimulation of the child’s hand can promote the child’s brain development to a certain extent.
Why does the hand bring the most stimulation? ? The hand is also called the second brain of humans, and it also has hundreds of millions of neurons. Every time a child touches an object, it will drive countless neurons to operate, which will bring countless stimulations to the brain and help the brain to do more. Faster and better development.
Therefore, the more chaotic these three places in the house, the children’s brains The more developed, parents should not be too diligent.
For children, the desktop is not a bad habit, especially for children 2-4 years old who are in a sensitive period of order. In this way, the children at this time will not place everything neatly according to the rules, but will decide where the items should be placed according to their own ideas.
Although the child will make the table very Chaos, but you can find anything you ask him to find. I think this is the so-called “orderly in chaos”, but many parents think that children with chaotic desktops are definitely not much better in learning, but Einstein Once said: If the desktop is chaotic, it means the brain is chaotic, then what does the empty desktop mean? This point deserves our deep consideration.
Toy chaos is definitely a nightmare for parents. Every time children play with toys, they will mess up the house, just like a thief. I believe that many parents will be very broken after seeing this scene. After all, after working for a day, go home I have to clean up my child’s mess, and my mood has become much worse.
But it’s not that children’s toys are messy It’s a bad thing. I don’t know if the parents have heard of the broken window effect, that is, one person broke the glass, and the director did not repair it, then more glass will be broken the next day. If the glass is just broken If it is broken and repaired, the person who broke the glass will feel guilty and stop breaking the glass.
The same goes for children playing with toys, first After playing with toys this time, the toys are placed randomly, everywhere on the sofa and bed, and then pick them up when they want to play next time, but if the parents tidy up, the children will not play with the toys they originally liked. In fact, this is falling into the broken window effect. The child looks at the neat toys and wonders if he should play.
Therefore, parents are advised not to be too diligent, it is impossible Just put the toy in a small room and let the child play in it unscrupulously, so that it will not mess up the living room. At the same time, the stimulation brought by the child’s hand when playing with the toy can better promote the development of the brain. Said to kill two birds with one stone.
3. The room is chaotic
It is well known that children’s curiosity and desire to explore have always been stronger than adults, and it is this curiosity and desire to explore that will drive children in all corners of the room Exploring or demolition of the house will always mess up the room. It can be said that every time the child explores, the parent collapses again.
Children learn to explore and curiosity The driving force is the foundation for children to understand the world. Therefore, it is recommended that parents be less angry. If the child gets too messy every time, parents can put less things in the child’s room and set rules for the child so that he can only Exploring in your own room can not only ensure the development of the child’s brain, but also reduce the degree of damage to the home.