Dad seldom accompanies the child, and it is easy for the baby to have the following deficiencies, the hidden dangers may accompany the whole life

Dad seldom accompanies the children, and it is easy for the baby to have the following deficiencies. The hidden dangers may accompany the whole life

According to a survey of 3 to 6-year-old fathers in Beijing, 80% of them feel that they are busy at work and do not have time to spend with their children. 

Writer: Wang Xiaoming

Editor: Wang Zhifeng

Finalized: Su Zihou

Because of the influence of traditional thinking, most families in our country are in the way of “men dominate the outside, women dominate the inside”. Men are responsible for making money and supporting the family, while women are responsible for all matters of the family, but men are completely responsible. The let-off style, a way of completely ignoring children’s education, is likely to have an impact on the baby’s future life. 

Child psychologists have shown through research that: a child who often lacks the company of his father will have some defects, which will accompany them throughout their lives. 

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What are the defects of children who lack the company of their father? 

1. A sense of insecurity

Because a person’s sense of security needs to be established from a young age, it mainly comes from the companionship and care of parents. The critical period for establishing a sense of security is between 0 and 6 years old. It needs the careful care and company of parents. 

If the father is absent during the growth of the child, the emotional connection that needs to be established with the father will disappear again and again, which will easily lead to the empty heart in the baby’s heart. No amount of maternal love can make up for it. The lack of heart. 

Over time, children will become very insecure, leading to inferiority, cowardice, and troubles. This influence is likely to accompany them throughout their lives, and their ability to perceive happiness in adulthood is also It will be lowered and life will be painful. 

2. No sense of responsibility

In the father, there will be a sense of family responsibility and social responsibility that the mother does not have. Therefore, if the father is absent during the child’s growth, the baby will not be able to learn. 

In addition, if a father is often “absent” in the family, it will be difficult to bear the responsibilities of the family, take good care of the family, and be irresponsible at work. This way will make the children feel Knowing mistakes, I will adopt a perfunctory attitude towards my family, life and study, without a sense of responsibility. 

3. Spouse selection and emotional development are limited

The role of father and mother is different, and there will be differences in behavior, which will cause the formation of the child’s gender role Therefore, the absence of any party is likely to bring the baby to cause serious impact. 

Psychologist Heselington found through research that girls who lack the company of their father may lack gender and identity, and cause gender cognition errors, which will have an impact on their future social relationships, marriage, and mate selection. 

In the process of growing up, boys will not be accompanied by their father, so they will slowly exclude the image of father from their hearts on the fifth day, and put all their dependence and emotions on their mothers, forming love The maternal complex has become what people often call “Ma Baonan”, which is bound to have an impact on children’s outlook on marriage and mate selection in the future. 

How dad does it Can it be beneficial to the child’s physical and mental development? 

1. Pay attention to high-quality companionship

Because dad spends most of his time at work, but he can spare a certain amount of time every day to achieve high-quality companionship with his children. In the process of companionship, learn to be wholehearted Interact with children, respect their opinions, walk into the hearts of children, and achieve high-quality company. 

2. Respect and understand mother

Although the father spends less time with his children, being able to respect and understand his mother in peacetime can make the husband and wife relationship harmonious and create a good family atmosphere, which is justified There is a popular saying “The best education a father can give his children is to respect and love his mother.”

What are the characteristics of a child accompanied by a dad? 

1. Be brave and strong

Because the characteristics of men are bravery, strong, fortitude, decisiveness, etc., these are what women do not have, so If fathers can accompany their children more, then they can learn these qualities. 

2. Smarter

The World Health Organization found through research that fathers spend an average of more than 2 hours with their children every day, and their IQs are better than others. Children have higher IQs. 

Through a 12-year research survey conducted by Yale University in the United States, it was found that if fathers can spend more time with their children during their growth, the children’s homework will be better, their IQ will be significantly higher, and the chances of success in society will be greater. 

The words of English writer Hubbert: “A father is better than 100 principals”! 

3. More exploration and curiosity

The famous psychologist Gerdy once said: “Men have more exploration, adventure, curiosity and tolerance, and this characteristic Will be fully reflected in the child’s education.”

This is because fathers are more willing to let their children try when they are with their children, and they will not nag and scold them when they are upbringing, but will encourage more The children try.  Within one and a half years old, the baby can complete five A big move, indicating that the body is healthy + the brain is well developed

What is the growth and development trend of babies? This is a very important thing for parents. 

Writer: Wang Xiaoming

Editor: Liu Yizhi

Finalized: Su After the child

After the child is born, parents will pay special attention to their growth and development. If they find that the growth rate of their own baby is slower than that of the baby of the same age, they will be very anxious. Let me share with you the developmental indicators of children within one and a half years of age to see if your baby has reached the standard. 

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The growth and development stage of the child’s big movements

1. The first big movement: turning (4~6 months)

This movement develops earlier. Learned in about 4 months, when the baby lifts his legs up, the body naturally falls to the side or back, and the lower body will keep twisting, it means that he is already learning to turn over. 


Baoma puts the baby on her knees and supports their waist to help them move slowly in multiple directions, so as to exercise the baby’s waist muscle strength; it can also be at a certain distance from the child. Place a toy they like within a distance of 5, stimulating them to learn to practice turning over on their own. 

2. The second action: sitting (June~August)

When babies can sit up, it means that their muscles and nerves have developed to the end of the spine, which is an indicator of normal motor function development. 

At first, the baby will need to rely on his hands to be able to support for a few seconds. As the back and waist muscles continue to develop, they will gradually adapt until they can sit firmly without external support. And also learn to grasp things with both hands. 


Baoma can play a pulling game with the baby. First let the baby lie flat, then slowly pull the baby to sit up with her hands, and then let them sit up in a few seconds. Revert to lying down position. 

This can slowly exercise the strength of the child’s waist. During the practice, the child can also be allowed to lean on the mat and sit up, which can reduce the weight of their spine. 

3. The third action: climbing (August to October)

The baby’s initial way of crawling forward is often crawling, and it may take a few minutes from crawling to crawling with legs supported. Months, in fact, as long as the baby can move forward normally, it is normal. 


Parents can put a baby’s interest in front of them to tease them, gradually exercise the child’s crawling ability, and remember not to skip this stage directly. Standing or walking. 

4. The fourth big action: stand (10-12 months)

Because the growth and development status of each baby is different, some babies can stand up at 10 months, but Standing too early is likely to cause damage to their spine. It is normal to stand for 10 to 12 months. 

At this time, Baoma can help the baby to stand alone by letting the baby support the sofa or walker. 

5. The fifth big move: walking (11~18 months)

Most babies can start walking independently after they reach their first birthday. Generally, they will not exceed 18 months, if the time is exceeded, it is recommended that parents take the baby to the hospital for examination in time. 


Don’t be too anxious during this process, you should guide step by step, and take more encouragement. At first, mothers can walk with the baby, and then let them walk with the things until they let go Walk alone slowly. 

To sum up, if your child can complete the above actions within one year of age, it means that the child is healthy and the brain is well developed. 

Scientific explanation: The effect of big movement development on the baby’s growth

1. Promote brain development

Parents may find that when a child does a certain movement, it repeats it many times, even dozens of times a day. 

In fact, this is a process of baby learning. Repeated and repeated actions can stimulate the baby’s sensory development and deepen memory continuously, making the brain remember this feeling, and not only can exercise for a long time. The flexibility of the hands, but also promote the development of the brain. 

2. Build self-confidence

After babies learn a big move, they will feel happy, and then feel proud, thereby building self-confidence. This is because their inner potential is constantly stimulated, so they will be more willing Accept the challenge and get in touch with more new things. 

3. Increase cognition and skills

After the baby completes the same action, he will repeat it. In this process, he will gradually understand the connection between things and explore The antecedents and consequences will gradually enrich one’s cognition and improve skills. 

Baby within one year of age The growth and development trend of

1, 0~3 months

Within one week after the baby is born, some of the water in the body will be lost and the weight will decrease physiologically. This is actually completely normal , Generally, it will start to grow rapidly after 10 days, about 25 to 30 grams per day. 

2, 4~8 months

The growth rate of the baby at this stage will slow down, and the weight will increase by about 500~1000g per month, and the weight will increase by 5~6cm, and the weight will be about twice that of the newborn. 

3, 9~12 months

The average height of male babies at 9 months is 65.2 ~80.5 cm, weighing 6.67~12.99 kg;

The female baby grows to approximately 63.7~78.9 cm and weighs 6.34~12.18 kg. 

After one year of age, the weight is about 3 times that of birth, and the height is about 25 cm longer than that of birth. 

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