For children with a pleasing personality, most of them are caused by the three behaviors of their parents. Parents self-reflection
Psychologist Black believes that the pleasing personality is a harmful psychological problem. People with this personality will please others without a principled bottom line.
Writer: Wang Xiaoming
Editor: Wang Zhifeng
Finalized: Su Zihou
In real life, you will find that some children look like Particularly well-behaved and sensible, they are good children in the eyes of their parents. They never refuse others. Even if they are difficult to accomplish, they will try their best to do it. They are also afraid that they are not doing well enough and never because Trouble others with your own affairs, even if it’s just a matter of effort.
Actually, this kind of child belongs to the pleasing personality. When such a baby grows up, he will always be inferior to others.
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What is a pleasing personality?
Psychologist Black believes that the pleasing personality is a harmful psychological problem. People with this personality will please others without a principled bottom line, and will not reject others, and will hope to help others do things to gain self-affirmation. This will affect your own judgment and control to a certain extent.
They will be overly concerned about other people’s attitudes and evaluations of themselves, for fear that they have done something wrong and make others unhappy, and in many cases they will do things that are not their own intentions because they are too concerned about other people’s ideas .
When facing other people’s requests, they never refuse, never say “no”, and there is no bottom line or principle at all. Such people will eventually become the target of being bullied by others.
These behaviors of parents Let the child develop a pleasing personality
1. Always yell at the child
According to data survey statistics, 90% of parents in China have ever yelled at their children. In order to avoid being scolded by the parents, the baby will choose to compromise, become cautious, and even make some flattering behaviors in order to avoid being scolded by the parents.
So, at home like this, outside the family, will treat outsiders like this, becoming a person with low self-esteem.
Psychologists believe that the way children get along with their parents in their infancy will gradually evolve into the way children get along with others in the future.
2. Disharmonious relationship between husband and wife
Some husbands and wives often quarrel, the relationship is very disharmonious, and even fight in front of their children. The baby has been in such a family environment for a long time. I can’t understand why my parents are doing this. It is very likely that they will think that they are not good enough. Mom and Dad will often quarrel, which makes the whole person feel a strong sense of inferiority, and then becomes cautious and extremely insecure. In the end, others dare not say anything and dare not easily violate it.
3. Rarely praise children
Some parents are very stingy with their own exaggerations when educating their children, so the grown-up children will lack self-confidence, which will easily lead to their children when they face the praise of others , Will feel “I’m not worthy” in the first reaction, there is no feeling of joy, and doubt about self, thus becoming introverted and low self-esteem, like to rely on others, feel that it is difficult to alleviate.
Pleasant personality What are the hazards for your child?
1. Lack of autonomy
Most of the children with pleasing personality have inferiority complex and introverted personality. Coupled with the idea of paying too much attention to others, they tend to become dependent on the peaceful opinions of others, and gradually Loss of autonomy makes it easy to suffer in life.
2. Interpersonal skills are hindered
Children with a pleasing personality will use material things to please others when they play with their friends when they are young. If no one is playing with him, they will become helpless.
Because of the habit of ingratiating others, and then gaining self-identification, they will be in a humble situation and easily ignored and disapproved by people around them. Interpersonal relationships are severely hindered, and they will enter the society in the future. It is possible to lose oneself in cruelty and reality.
How to help children Improve “pleasant personality”?
1. Help children build self-confidence
A child with a “pleasant personality” is extremely insecure in his heart, so the first thing parents should do is to give them a sense of security and encouragement The baby expresses his inner thoughts, and gives face to the child on all occasions without hurting the young heart.
Therefore, as parents, when their children want to do something, don’t rush to deny them. In fact, as long as they don’t violate the rules and laws, you can support them.
Even if you do not succeed in doing things, you can encourage them to work hard. If they are successful, they will be praised in time to help the baby build self-confidence.
2. Let children learn to think independently
Parents should not always let their children be “obedient”, “behaved”, etc., and let their children listen to their parents in everything, so that it is difficult for them to have the ability to be independent.
Actually, parents can let their children have the right to make their own choices, ranging from dressing and eating, to deciding choices. Parents should not restrict them, as long as they provide assistance.
If a baby grows up in such an environment for a long time, it is easy to establish his own thinking system, and to establish principles from it, and to strictly abide by it, then he will have the ability to be independent in the future, and it will not be easy to suffer in society. . Parents are only about 1.6 meters, son But it jumped to 1.8 meters, there is a trick that many parents ignore
In addition to the genetic influence of the parents, the height of a child will be affected by other acquired factors?
Writer: Wang Xiaoming
Editor: Liu Yizhi
Finalized: Su After the son
As parents, I hope that their children can grow up to be big and tall, especially boys. After all, being tall can add a lot to personal image, which is beneficial to future careers and marriage relationships.
According to scientific research, 70% of the height of a child is derived from the genetic inheritance of the parents, and 30% is derived from acquired factors.
After reading this set of data, some parents who are not tall are very worried, afraid that their children will not grow taller in the future, but there is really no need for them. As long as they take good control of the acquired factors, they can also make their children grow longer. National Cheng Kung University is taller.
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Dapeng and his wife are only about 1.6 meters tall. Originally thought that the height of the child would not be too high, but it is surprising that the height of only 16-year-old son has reached It was 1.8 meters tall, which made Dapeng very puzzled.
So, I secretly performed a paternity test with his wife and son behind his back. The final result showed that the child was born, but this also made Dapeng even more confused.
In this regard, the doctor said: The current standard of living is constantly changing, and it is normal for children to be taller than their parents due to acquired factors.
What are the acquired factors that affect the height of a child?
Because the children’s academic pressure is relatively high now, they often need to stay up late to complete homework or review homework, and the growth hormone that promotes height growth is secreted more at night after falling asleep.
According to research, 11 pm to 2 am and 5 am to 7 am are the most vigorous periods of growth hormone secretion.
Therefore, if parents want their children to grow taller, they need to let their children fall asleep after 11 o’clock in the evening and wake up after 7 o’clock in the evening.
Exercise and non-exercise have a huge impact on the growth and development of children. Generally, the baby who loves sports has a lively and lovely personality, good physique, and not too tall. Children who are short and do not love sports tend to be introverted and have a relatively short stature.
According to research, the average height of children who love sports is 7~8 cm taller than those who do not love.
Therefore, if parents want their children to grow taller, they usually take them to exercise, such as skipping rope, playing football, running, etc., so that their children can develop a good habit of loving sports, thereby promoting the growth of height.
Children’s growth and development are inseparable from adequate nutrition. This requires parents to provide children with comprehensive food, so that after they eat, they can absorb it and convert it into energy to meet their growth needs.
Therefore, if parents want their children to grow taller, they need to work harder in eating, and they must be comprehensive and adequate.
The Nutrition Society recommends that children aged 4 to 12 need to consume 1830-2470 kcal per day, 300-400 ml of milk, 50-75 grams of protein, and 200-300 grams of vegetables. 150 to 250 grams of fruit.
In addition, it is necessary to avoid feeding children with calorie and fat foods, so as to avoid excessive energy being difficult to consume and accumulate in the body, causing the baby to gain weight, thereby inducing precocious puberty and affecting the growth of height.
According to research findings, obese children are more likely to develop precocious puberty than their peers.
Nowadays, children need to face heavy schoolwork as they grow up. Parents sometimes put pressure on them. When they make mistakes, some parents will scold them. This will put the baby under immense pressure and depressed mood.
Unfortunate emotions and excessive stress are likely to affect the normal operation of the child’s endocrine system, as well as affect the brain function and affect the growth of height.
According to expert research, if a child has long-term psychological stress, depression or anxiety, it is likely to cause a disorder of the neuroendocrine system, which will affect the secretion of growth hormone and hinder height growth.
This trick will be ignored by many parents. Therefore, parents who want their children to grow taller need to pay more attention to keeping their children in a relaxed and pleasant environment to help them relieve their bad emotions. Or conduct benign guidance.
To sum up, in addition to understanding the acquired factors that affect children’s height growth, parents need to be able to grasp the important periods to help their children grow taller.
Parents take care Several golden periods for children’s height growth
1. Basic stage: 4~6 years old
This age group is the critical period for the growth and development of children, and it is also the basic stage for height growth. As long as you lay a good foundation, pay attention to the above-mentioned acquired factors , I believe that it is not a dream to grow up to be taller in the future.
2. Growth stage: 7-9 years old
This age group is the slow stage of the child’s height growth. Parents need to pay attention to whether all aspects of the baby’s body are developing normally and whether there is precocity If there is no phenomenon, continue to maintain good habits and help your children grow up to be taller.
3. Fast stage: 10~16 years old
This age group is a period of rapid growth of children’s height. Parents must take good care of the above four points to promote the growth of children.
4. Sprint period: adolescence
When a child reaches this stage, it is the last stage of height. Boys are generally between 17 and 25 years old, and girls are between 16 and 23 years old.