Children from single-parent families VS two-parent families have obvious personality differences, and correct education can make up for them
If you cannot give your children a complete home, then please give them a strict and moderate family education, a good school education, a sound personality training, and a rich spiritual world.
Finalized: Su Zihou
Single-parent families are common in our country, especially now that the divorce rate is rising day by day. The main reasons for single-parent families, of course, may also be widowhood, separation, unmarried first pregnancy and other factors. No matter what the reason, children are always the biggest victims in marriage. The physical problems, living conditions, and psychological growth of children from single-parent families After receiving widespread attention from sociologists and psychologists, what is the difference between a child raised in this kind of family and an ordinary two-parent family?
< p>The early parents divorced because of their relationship disagreement. After a court decision, she was only 6 years old and lived with her mother. Due to the lack of her father’s company since childhood, she felt very inferior and sad.
In order to raise her, her mother worked three part-time jobs by herself. She got up early and worked greedily every day. In order to survive better, she learned to cook and wash clothes at a young age, despite her self-improvement and independence on the surface. But his heart is extremely fragile, and he often shed tears quietly in the dead of night.
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She is very sensitive to outside gossip, and rarely shows her heart to others. She is afraid that her classmates will look at her strangely.
In fact, single-parent families have a great impact on children. The family is the first place to cultivate and shape a person’s character. Since one parent is not around, it cannot form a complete family structure. The child’s heart A series of problems may occur.
Character defects of children from single-parent families What?
1, low self-esteem
Children of single-parent families may feel low self-esteem because they do not have a complete family, or their parents shirk each other about their parenting issues after divorce, cold war and quarrel between the parents, etc. It will cause the children to feel insecure and think that they are homeless and unloved orphans.
Some children may have nowhere to vent because of bad inner emotions, doing things irritably, irritable, often impulsive, very aggressive, and even appear Swearing, fighting, fighting, etc.
Some children can’t let go of this, they are often depressed and fall into sad, low emotions. Over time, they become withdrawn, dislike speech, reluctant to socialize, and refuse to participate in group activities.
Some children may be full of hatred towards their parents, especially when one party often belittles and reprimands the other, making his heart resentful. Over time, this bad mood Extending to life and study, becoming indifferent to the people around.
5. Sensitive and suspicious
Children of single-parent families are very afraid of the gossip of the people around them, for fear of being said something awkward, and are extremely sensitive in their hearts. It takes a long time to catch the wind and catch the shadows. Relieved.
6. Domineering and willful
Some parents may feel that their children are very pitiful without their parents, especially the elderly, who will over-spoil their children. In fact, doing so will harm them and allow them to develop selfishness, arbitrariness, and selfishness. A character lacking a sense of responsibility.
In short, no matter what the reason is a single parent, it may have an impact on the child’s cognitive development, emotional development, interpersonal communication, behavior habits, study life, ethics, etc., regardless of the father’s Raised, or raised by a mother, children are more prone to personality distortions than children living in “integrity” families.
Some parents may Children with a complete family will choose to reorganize the family, but they don’t realize that this may induce sadness, anger or even rebellion. According to the survey, the children who reorganize the family are more lonely, lonely, helpless and inferior in their hearts.
Of course, it is not to say that all children from single-parent families have personality defects. In addition to a person’s personality related to the family environment, family education and life experience are also key points that cannot be ignored. The key lies in how parents educate themselves Of children, so that they have a sound personality and can develop physically and mentally.
How to educate children from single-parent families ?
1. Let the child accept the reality calmly
What can parents do to reduce the inner harm of the child? That is to tell the child: No matter whether mom and dad live together, we love you very much, and this will never change. The education of children should be honest, and let them know that divorce is normal.
2. Both parties must give care and care.
No matter how bad the relationship between husband and wife is, care and love for children is always indispensable. Although parents do not live together, they usually care about their children and visit them more so that their children can feel love and company, and they can grow up healthily.
3. Don’t slander the other party
Some parents may deliberately belittle the other party after the divorce, and instill hatred and hostility into their children. They don’t know that doing so will completely deviate their children’s character from the normal track, and their hearts will be hated. Cover, how to grow up happily?
4. Do not spoil your children too much.
Single-parent families are more common in spoiling. Some parents always feel sorry for their children, so they unconditionally meet all their children’s needs both spiritually and materially. This will only allow children to develop personality defects such as self-esteem, selfishness, poor resistance to frustration, and poor independence. The expert gave the best Late deadline, beyond this age, several hazards are waiting
Writer: Chen Fang
Editor: Liu Yizhi
Finalized: Su Zihou
Baby’s health is a topic that many parents care about. In fact, you know Yes, some small things may pose a threat to your baby’s health. For example, if you stop feeding bottles too late, it will often cause trouble——
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My child is two years old this year , But still often crying and clamoring to drink milk from a bottle, in order to prevent him from crying, I just let him go.
Until a few days ago, I suddenly found some “small black spots” on the child’s teeth. I quickly took him to the hospital for an examination. The doctor told me after the examination , This is tooth decay, and the cause may be the frequent use of baby bottles.
Actually, experts explain:
In fact, the harm of long-term use of baby bottles is far more than just causing tooth decay, but there are also many undesirable effects. Many mothers make this mistake. They can’t be tortured by crying, so they compromised and let them continue to use baby bottles. This will be a huge harm to children.
The experts of the American Academy of Pediatrics have discovered through research that babies should stop using baby bottles after one year of age, and they should completely abandon baby bottles when they are about 18 months old. The latest deadline for the baby to quit the bottle.
If you don’t quit for more than 18 months, it will definitely cause the child to be full of dependence on the bottle. This will Cause a lot of problems:
1, easy to gain weight
children’s long-term use of the bottle is easy to form Dependence, in this way, in the process of feeding, you will unknowingly overdose.
Once the body receives more calories and energy, it will It has an adverse effect on the child’s weight control and can easily lead to obesity. In addition, the simple intake of milk will block the intake and absorption of other nutrients if the child accepts a small amount of other foods. /p>
2, dental caries
Caries caused by long-term use of baby bottles are generally referred to as “bottle caries.” Children’s dentine is relatively thin, and the degree of mineralization is low, and it is very easy to be corroded. If you drink milk from a bottle for a long time, your baby’s saliva secretion will be suppressed, and the ability to automatically clean the mouth will decrease. Sugar is fermented in the mouth to produce acidic substances, which will glaze and corrode the gums, which will lead to dental caries.
3. Increase the risk of otitis media
Many people may not know why, Affect the ears. In fact, many children usually choose to lie down when using a bottle to drink milk, so that the milk is likely to flow into the ears, which can easily lead to otitis media.
According to the survey, the incidence of otitis media in children who have used baby bottles for a long time is about 10 times that of children who have not used baby bottles for a long time.
4. Influencing language ability
Generally speaking, children are the beginning of language formation at around one year old, and children are very sensitive to language at this time. If you always eat the bottle, the child is disturbed by the nipple in the mouth when talking, which will affect the development of the mouth and lips, resulting in slurred speech and stuttering problems.
Because the baby bottle is just a drinking tool that can be used conveniently when the child is not conscious, once the child has self-consciousness, he should give up in time. But it is naturally difficult to throw away the things you are used to, so a process is needed, and some tools are needed for transition:
A: Reduce the frequency of use< /p>
Don’t take out the baby bottle right away when the baby is noisy. Instead, try to minimize the time and number of times the baby bottle is used, so that it will gradually fade in the baby’s memory. Over time, the baby can forget to use the bottle.
B: Use an open cup
It is also necessary to find some suitable tools for children to make the transition. An open cup is a good choice.
Of course, it is obviously difficult for children to accept it immediately, so we can choose a beautiful open cup and place it so that children can easily touch and see Wherever they go, parents can also use this open cup in front of their children from time to time, so that even if the child is given a process of imitating, it can arouse their attention and interest. Over time, children will develop the habit of using cups with their parents.
C: Try the duckbill cup
Because many children with open cups are very It is difficult to accept, so if the open cup is unsuccessful, you can also try the duckbill cup. The design of this kind of cup is closer to children’s habits, is convenient for children to grasp, and is not easy to spill. After using the duckbill cup for a period of time, the child can also accept the open cup. This way, you can quit the bottle naturally.
[Xing Yun said]
Many parents may choose straw cups for their children to drink water, because it is more convenient, but in fact, this kind of cup is also It is not a special recommendation. This kind of cup is actually the same type as the baby bottle. Long-term use will also affect the child’s tooth development, making it difficult for the child to close the upper and lower teeth, and affecting the formation and development of language functions.