A small action by a parent lays a big “hidden danger” for the child’s spinal development, which hurts the baby without knowing it
As a parent, the health of the child is the most important thing.
Finalized: Su Zihou
The birth of a baby often carries the hope of a family, and as the baby grows up, it may A careless behavior of some parents can harm the healthy development of the baby.
Case: An action by grandma caused the baby’s spine to deform.
During the end of the inspection, Xiaoxue’s family was told that the child had deformed the spine, which may have a certain impact on the future development. After being sad, after the doctor asked and understood, I understood the reason.
After giving birth to the child at the beginning of the year, Xiaoxue had to return to work, so the responsibility of taking care of the child was assumed by her retired mother-in-law.
However, while taking care of the children, the elderly will also take time every day to cook for their sons and daughter-in-laws who leave early and return late at night. At this time, the mother-in-law puts the children in the stroller for cooking. Staring at every move of the child.
The back of Ke Xiaoxue’s stroller is slanted, and the back of the stroller is a soft pocket. The baby can’t lie flat, so he can only wade in it crookedly, or simply sit directly, so that The child’s spine is in a curved state for a long time, which affects the healthy development of the spine.
Which behaviors are likely to cause the baby’s spine to deform?
1. Hold the child upright
Many inexperienced parents like to hold the child upright, but in fact, this practice is very harmful to the baby .
The spine of a baby not long after birth is relatively soft, and there is not enough back muscles to support the head. If the baby is held upright, the weight of the head will be pressed on the spine, which is not conducive to the neck spine. Healthy development can also easily cause the baby to turn back suddenly, and in severe cases, it can also cause the spine to deform.
2. Wrong diaper changing posture
Many people may think that changing diapers is a particularly easy task. Many novice parents are used to how convenient it is, but in fact, this is also a misconception. If the diaper changing posture is improper, it will easily affect the baby’s spine development.
When changing the baby’s diaper, some parents like to hold the baby’s legs by hand and lift the baby up for the sake of convenience. For babies who are just born, this method is often It’s easy to hurt the spine.
The correct approach should be to turn the baby on its side. After turning over this side, after making the diaper, turn the other side.
3. Early contact with strollers
After the baby is born, many families will buy various strollers, but in fact, it is not true for babies under one year old. Suitable for early contact with strollers.
The body of a newborn baby is very fragile, unable to support his body, and the baby’s spine is not yet fully developed.
Generally, the recliner inside the baby carriage, the baby is prone to depression when lying in it, and the entire back is nestled in the soft pocket, which is not conducive to the healthy development of the baby’s spine. It will not only cause scoliosis, but also affect the internal organs. The development of organs and height.
4. Sleeping with your baby
Some babies are noisy before going to bed, so many novice mothers will hug their baby to sleep, but in fact, doing so is not good for the baby’s health.
In this period, the baby’s body functions are not yet fully developed, especially the bones have not been formed yet, and there is great plasticity. If the mother hugs the baby to sleep, it is easy to cause the baby’s spine to bend. For a long time, the deformation of the spine is also natural.
How to hug a child for novice parents
1, light hands and feet
The newly born baby has not perfect bone development and the body is very soft, so be sure to light hands and feet when holding the baby .
Whether it is a father or a mother, the first thing to remember is to be gentle. Don’t pick up the baby too fiercely. However, as a parent, you don’t need to be overly nervous, as long as you learn to hold the baby correctly, Just make your baby feel safe.
2. Hold your baby’s neck and waist.
The baby’s neck is very soft before it is opened, but the small head is heavy, so you must pay special attention to this aspect.
Under normal circumstances, hand rests and wrist hugs are often used to hold a child:
Hand rest refers to the left hand to support the baby’s back, neck, and head, and the right hand to support his small buttocks and waist. . Wrist holding means putting the baby’s head in the left arm, the elbow protects the baby’s head, the left wrist and right hand protects the baby’s back and waist, the right forearm protects the baby’s legs, and the right hand protects the baby’s ass And waist.
These two methods It can effectively prevent the baby from turning backwards, which is not conducive to the baby’s healthy development.
3. The main hug is inside for three months.
Although the baby grows very fast, the main hug is for the baby within three months.
In three months, the baby’s neck muscles and back muscles have not been fully developed, and can’t support their head well, and the horizontal hug can minimize the baby’s back and neck The pressure, let the baby find the most comfortable feeling. Several types of “new domestic violence” are quietly emerging It’s popular, parents don’t notice it, but it hurts the child very much
Raising children often requires a lot of hard work.
Finalized: After Su Zi
In the past, many parents followed the principle of “filial piety under a stick”, thinking that “beating is a scolding It’s love”, and doing things to children is for the children’s good in the final analysis.
However, this violent education method has long been abandoned by countless people. Parents now pay more attention to scientific parenting, but at the same time, “new domestic violence” is also spreading.
Case: “New domestic violence” is destroying the child’s childhood
Ms. Zhang’s son is 7 years old and is about to enter elementary school, but due to work reasons, the couple usually have limited leisure and entertainment time, so they accompany him The time is actually not much.
However, in order to allow her son to grow up with the company of his parents like other children, Ms. Zhang resolutely quit her job and devoted herself to taking care of her son at home. However, in order to make a living, Ms. Zhang opened an online shop at home, thinking about the best of both worlds by opening an online shop while taking care of the children.
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However, because the online store’s business is pretty good, coupled with the long-term self-care, whether it’s work pressure or life The pressure made Ms. Zhang feel out of breath.
In order not to bring negative emotions to the children, and to make oneself look at everything calmly and objectively, every time her son makes a mistake, Ms. Zhang will put her son in the bathroom, and the son will cry in it , Ms. Zhang did not respond, until the child realized the mistake, she would not open the door for him.
Once my son could not bear it anymore, he said to Ms. Zhang: “Mom, every time you punish me, I will dream that you don’t want me anymore, can you not put me in the bathroom? ?”
< p>Ms. Zhang realized that her behavior had caused harm to the child.
In fact, this is the so-called “cold violence”. Beating and scolding children is a parent’s violent behavior, which will have a psychological impact on the child, but in the same way, cold violence is also very scary and can cause great harm to the child’s body and psychology.
These “new types of domestic violence” are spreading, and parents still don’t know it.
① Too indifferent to children
In fact, every child needs encouragement, but many parents think that praise Children will make children proud and complacent, so they have nothing to do with their children’s achievements, and even take it for granted that children are excellent.
Therefore, when children come to their parents to ask for credit with a happy face, and the parents just faintly replies, “We still need to work hard,” this gap will also undermine the children’s self-confidence and even become taciturn. I can’t let go of speaking and doing things, causing serious inferiority complex.
Therefore, when parents treat their children, they should pay attention to the way they get along with their children, and don’t let the children become inferior.
②, shirk in front of children
Children are a very curious group, especially when they are young, they are full of curiosity about the unknown, and they often ask many questions, various There are whimsical ideas, but when parents are free, they also want to take a good rest, and they become a little impatient when faced with questions from their children.
Every time at this time, parents will prevaricate in front of their children. The father asks the child to find the mother, and the mother asks the child to find the father, thus transferring the responsibility to the other half.
Maybe in the eyes of parents, this is a very small thing, but children will think that parents don’t like themselves, are they not good enough? Over time, they will have anxiety and anxiety, and even begin to deny their own feelings. exist.
If parents always treat their children in this way, the children will develop a “pleasant personality” when they grow up, lack self-confidence, and act fearlessly.
③. Ignore the child
As a parent, you have to shoulder everything about your child, so the pressure will be very high. Financial pressure, work pressure, life pressure, etc., will accumulate In the body of the parents, they will naturally feel tired.
However, even if you are tired, parents must remain enthusiastic in front of their children and cannot bring negative emotions to the children, otherwise it is easy for the children to produce all kinds of bad conjectures and guesses, and then affect the formation of personality.
After many parents go home, they are used to leaving their children aside. The lack of communication and interaction between the two parties will cause the parent-child relationship to become rusty, and when the children lack love, they will also be psychologically unfamiliar. Suffer a certain degree of harm.
What should parents do when a child makes a mistake?
Under normal circumstances, children’s mistakes can be divided into two types: one is that the elders must correct immediately, such as bullying the weak and not knowing how to care for the public property, etc.; the other is that the child can correct by himself, such as How to adapt to the environment, life, etc.
No matter what kind of mistake a child makes, as a parent, you should do the following two things in the education process.
➤Think from the perspective of a child
No matter how old a child is, he has his own way of thinking, and everyone’s way of thinking is different. As a parent, you should think more from the perspective of the child. Find out why the child did this, not what the consequences would be.
Parents should not look at the problem from the perspective of an adult, nor should they ask their children according to the standards of an adult.
➤Communicate with patience
Even if a child makes a mistake, he still needs the understanding and communication of his parents. Don’t think that the child made a mistake, he will know where he was wrong, and Don’t dare to commit it again next time.
In fact, this kind of “cold violence” hurts the child even more, because he doesn’t know where he is wrong, but instead feels that his parents “do not love me anymore” or even “don’t want me anymore.”
Therefore, when a child makes a mistake, as a parent, you must be patient to communicate with the child, let him know where he is wrong and why the parent is angry, so that the child can listen to the parent’s teaching .